Up until this point, this page has been a dedicated space for writing about and showing beautiful family connections, while also noting the importance of quality time…
…but what about those who feel they or their family are challenged when it comes to these areas?
What about those who struggle to connect, who feel limited when it comes to love, who might actually – if they are being honest – crave time away from their family?
Start where you are.
And then open yourself up to what it is that you really want and what is possible for your life.
Jada Pinkett Smith said, “Your happiness is what fuels you from the inside… we’ve lost our way on how to make ourselves happy. You have to take care of yourself in order to have the alignment and the power to take care of others at the capacity that we do. When you stop taking care of yourself, you get out of balance…”
For many of us, it has become easier to point the finger at external circumstances/situations/people/etc. as to why we aren’t happy or why the state of our lives is not the way we want it to be…
…rather than taking even a moment to look inward.
But what are your standards when it comes to yourself? How often do you take time to sit on the sideline and – even for a few moments – become a spectator of your own inner thoughts, beliefs, and fears? Taking notice of them first and then taking assessment of how well they are serving you (or not serving you) afterwards.
What if rather than thinking that the external world was the cause of your unhappiness, you looked at how maybe, possibly, quite likely it is the state of your own internal world that determines it instead? And not only determines it… but reflects itself blatantly back to you in experiences and life lessons and interactions with others?
Would that change anything for you? Would that be reason enough for you to start changing yourself instead of trying to change everyone else?
In being transparent and honest, I can tell you that this has been a complete game-changer for me! When I really adopted this new belief – that my external world was a reflection of my internal world – I gained so much power, rather than continually giving it away to other people, to circumstances, to illness, or any other excuse, limitation, or fear you can imagine.
When I truly started to see correlations between how I related to myself and how others related to me, I became privy to one of the biggest game-changers of human existence.
I am still a work in progress, but now – instead of immediately trying to change someone else, I ask myself questions like, “What quality is it about them that I don’t like in myself?” “What is it about their interaction that bothered me so much… have I ever treated myself the same way?”
Opening myself up to this possibility has not only provided great insight and motivation for changing my own levels of self-love and self-worth, but it has also enabled me to instantly be a better partner, a better friend, a better colleague, a better person.
Because, previously, I thought I had to change external circumstances – mostly people and their own belief systems, views on life, management styles, relationship styles, knowledge, etc. – before I could be completely satisfied or happy or somehow achieve the things I so desired in life. This new shift to inner reflection freed me from that line of thinking, though – which instantly allowed the relationships I had with others to also improve in its wake.
If you are, in any way, the way that I was or if you, like me, and are still in the process of letting go of this flavour of problem-solving to achieve a better life, I can tell you that it is amazing how much opens up for you when you can start to release your grip and need for control and direction (in relation to other peoples’ lives). There is an amazing lightness that comes with relinquishing this (false) power. Additionally, it means that the energy you would have spent in trying to force others to change can now be spent in enriching your own life so that you can then (in an non-forceful way) really begin to contribute to the lives of others.
So when you’re going through the process of figuring out what it is about your life that you dislike and what it is that you would like to change, think of asking yourself if there is something you could change from within first that might be the true key to unlocking everything else.
I can hear you thinking, “Yeah, that’s great, but what if I put in the effort and my partner/kids/employer/etc. don’t? How will things ever improve?”
My short answer to you is this quote from Jim Rohn, “If you will change, everything will change for you.”
Sending you light and love and all good things along your life’s journey. ✨💕
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